You might dislike hearing about what attracts women, and it might not be comfortable, but it has to be done. At the end of the day, its all still very true. There’s guys who accept the mainstream theory on what attracts women, and then guys who reject it. Both of these are just as wrong. All these guys have only separate little bits and pieces of the truth, and actually lack the full picture. And then, every guy it turns out, is at the same time right about what attracts women, and at the same wrong about it. This is why my main focus is on the entire picture, and tying all of these theories together.
Its All About Status, Fame Or Looks?
I’d love to say this is completely untrue, but its not. It does play some role, but plenty of guys get massive success without it. What makes me sad, is that the only people fighting this “its all about looks and wealth” thing… Are guys who are just as crazy, except in the opposite direction. These other guys refuse to acknowledge any power in status. The problem with the second group is that they’re obsessed with behaviour and how to act around women. Most of these people, get no better results, but they are a lot more sad. Why? Because they feel superior over the first group, and think they “have game”, but the’re just deluded.
The ironic thing with these guys, is that they make fun of guys who are obsessed with gaining wealth or status, yet they, themselves are equally obsessed with something that’s only one factor. Some of what they focus on, has an effect some time, just like looks or wealth can help you out some time and work in some ways, but its just not the full picture. They live in this bubble, where they think they know how things work, but deep down, they have no idea why their stuff works, or fails, when it does. They’re also wrong that status, fame or looks don’t matter at all, because they do in certain extent.
Can Badboys And Nice Guys Tell Us More?
These are the people who believe that all you need to attract women is go out of your way to be really good to women and be kind and respectful. Yet, so many women are attracted to complete aholes. And many nice-guys, can spend their whole life hoping that niceness will work out of them, but it never does. What’s the truth? Do women like being treated badly? Most women, in truth, do like niceness, but only if all the other pre-requisites are there… Such as the guy having character, confidence and a spine. The problem they face, is they don’t get this option, most of the time. The thing is, in real life, a lot of time the nice guy has a lot more (other) negative traits than even a jerk. In essence, in real life, she many times chooses the “lesser evil”, which is the charming, fun jerk… Over the passive agressive (and sometimes creepy) nice guy.
Now, are you starting to see the overall pattern? You see, most guys make the mistake of looking for one or two magical things or qualities that attract women. But there is no such thing to find! When a nice guy looks at a jerk scoring with women, he ascribes it to the jerkness, but ignores the other 30 traits where the jerk might actually be above the nice guy. Or maybe let’s look at a guy who’s a male model. He gets all kinds of hot women, and you look at that, and decide looks are everything. What you don’t also notice is his friend, also a male model, gets almost no women… So its not “all looks”.
Now, don’t missunderstand where I’m going. I’m not trying to tell you that status and looks don’t attract women. They do, and to say they don’t is to be deluding yourself. What I am also (however) saying is that there are dozens of traits that are equally important. The thing the guys get wrong is to focus on just one trait, and assume its the only one that matters. And in essence, to say “status and success don’t matter” is just as irrational as saying “the only thing that matters is how well off you are”.
Take A Look At The Sum Of The Parts, Not The Individual Bits
It is the combination of all these different traits, that give you an overall “value” as a man. The unifying theory on what attracts women, simply states that women are attracted to value. Its simple, women are programmed by biology to be attracted to a man who is of equal, or higher value than her. One guy can have lots of value by being rich and famous. Another can have it by simply knowing lots of people, being an exciting conversationalist and lots of confidence. A guy can be obsessed with being at the top of one field, and attract women like that, or have a dozen areas he’s good at. Both strategies work.
The best in the world, all focus on getting their overall value in order. They don’t focus on becoming the best in one field, like wealth or looks. They also don’t focus on what to say or do, or how to approach women, or how to “game” them. These guys, simply get it, and focus on the full package. This is why you see womanizers who neither have money nor looks, nor do they focus on “gaming” women. Instead of being a one-trick-pony, they are well-rounded and attractive in all kinds of ways. A player like this, might not have the best body in the world, but he ussually is a bit more fit than the average guy. And then, he takes this, and then he combines it with a good sense of humour, small business he runs on the side, and a charming knowledge that impresses women.
Now, I hope most of this information didn’t confuse you. I tried to make it as clear as possible, but its really a big, complex subject… So if you want to figure how you personally can attract more women, feel free to check out this special quiz I created just for you. It will let you know exactly what you’re doing right or wrong with women and what to do, in order to attract more women.